An Important Message From Our Director
Dear Beloved Adoptive Families, Birth Parents and Adoptees,
It has been an incredible honor to serve you over the past thirty years. We have been blessed to see hundreds of families grow through the miracle of adoption. We have had the opportunity to come alongside many, many hundreds of women in unplanned pregnancies to offer life options, offer hope without judgment, and give life changing help and support on a committed and consistent basis.
DUE TO A CHANGE IN CALIFORNIA LAWS, AS OF JANUARY 1, 2024, ADOPTION FACILITATION WILL BE PROHIBITED.
THOUGH OUR SERVICES CONSISTED OF DOING MUCH MORE THAN MATCHING FAMILIES AND BIRTH PARENTS, OUR ABILITY TO HELP OTHERS WITH ADOPTION PLANNING WAS BASED ON THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA APPROVING US AS REGISTERED AND BONDED UNDER THE UMBRELLA OF ADOPTION FACILITATORS.
WE ARE SAD TO HAVE TO ANNOUNCE THAT ADOPTION ANSWER RESOURCE CENTER WILL CEASE DOING BUSINESS ON DECEMBER 27, 2023.
However, we are moving forward with great hope! Adoptive Parents and Expectant Birth Parents can and will continue to be cared for as we now work with Hope 4 Kids Adoption Agency, a California Licensed Adoption Agency.
If you have any questions, please contact MichelleD@Hope4Kids.com
Thank you for allowing us to continue to help you.
With love and hope always,
Michelle Dettman
Adoption Advocate & Coach
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Birth Mother Testimonials
Here are the words of one of the most special young women I have had the blessing to meet and work with. Though Leslie has the emotional maturity of a child, she was big enough to know what was best for her baby. Showing her huge heart throughout the process, she blessed her daughter with an incredible family. Leslie has been a joy to help.
Hi Michelle. I am glad that you helped me find a family for Charlotte. The adoptive parents are perfect and it’s good that she has a big sister and brother, too. I think about her a lot, but I know she is happy with her family. They take care of her better than I could.
I was adopted too and my family loved me so much, so I know my baby being adopted is just right. The adoptive family is just right.
You were so nice to come and stay with me in the hospital and hold my hand during my surgery. Everybody at the hospital was nice to me. You were nice and so was Charlotte’s new parents.Thank you so much for helping me and helping Charlotte. I feel like everything is just right.
Adoption. The hardest and most beautiful choice.
When I found out I was pregnant, I was in a desperate situation. At the age of 20, I had two kids already. The relationship with the baby’s birth father had become abusive and my family really didn’t want to have too much to do with me. I seriously considered abortion and came very close to having one. I thought of adoption but the first adoption agency I called was very cold and made me feel as if I was just a customer.When I called Adoption Answer, it was different. The voice that came from the other end of the telephone was warm and comforting – she introduced herself as Michelle. As our conversation continued, I felt like I could trust her and that they would really help me. I shared that I was practically homeless and had two children who I had to trust to their father’s care as I was in no position to provide for them. They came up to meet me for an appointment and instead of
leaving me homeless, began to help me that same day.I entered into the world of adoption and looked and read through many profiles of adoptive parents wanting to complete their family. The first two families I chose were unable to proceed with adoption – they were just not the right family. Michelle assured me that I would find the perfect family and I will never forget when she told me that she had ONE MORE PROFILE for me to look at. IT WAS THEM! At first glance, this couple made me feel that they were going to
be it! As I read through the profile, I knew they were everything I wanted for my unborn child. When I met them – this complete peace came over me. The adoptive parents were very involved with everything. They were and are so wonderful and I could not have asked for better parents for my child. She is so blessed to be with them.If it wasn’t for Michelle, Arielle and the Adoption Answer staff, I don’t think my journey through adoption would have been so wonderful. During the six month period that I lived in the birth mom home, I was able to complete my high school diploma and am now about to graduate with my certification as a Medical Assistant. My children were able to come and live with me. I also began going to church and accepted the Lord as my Savior. I thank the Lord for leading me to
Adoption Answer. I thank the Lord for Michelle having Adoption Answer as a ministry – she is such a wonderful person and helped me through so much. Recently I moved out on my own and I still call Michelle. I continue to go to church. I am hopeful for my future and am thankful for the peace I had through the whole adoption process and even after.Michelle, I will always be so grateful for you being there for me through everything. I love you.
The first day that I came across Adoption Answer Resource Center was a day I will never forget. It would be the day that my whole life would change. I was 24 and already a mother to three kids, but they were not in my care due to wrong choices in life. I was homeless on the streets when I found out I was pregnant. I was alone with no family support. I began to scroll through the yellow pages and there I found Adoption Answer.
The first day I spoke with the Michelle from Adoption Answer, she actually came and met me at the doctor’s office. It was a shock to find out that I was 17 weeks pregnant. From that first day, Michelle made sure that I was safe and that all my needs were met. Never would I think that the relationship between she and I would be more than business, but I was wrong. She was there for me- not just regarding the adoption but in every aspect of my life. She helped direct me in
life and was standing by my side through all of my struggles. I couldn’t have been more blessed to have a person like her as part of my life.due to wrong choices in life. I was homeless on the streets when I found out I was pregnant. I was alone with no family support. I began to scroll through the yellow pages and there I found Adoption Answer Resource Center.In July, I gave birth to a beautiful blessing – my son. My relationship with the adoptive parents grew to be close. It made me very content with my choice and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I would be lying if I sat here and told you that this is an easy thing to go through, because it’s not. It’s only been a few months so not a day goes by that I don’t think of him or wonder what he is doing. But when I’m hurting, I remember a certain thing the adoptive father said to me.
He encouraged me to pray, and to thank God for what I do have and to ask the Lord to give me tangible signs on what to do next. I never really prayed before this experience, but now I do – every day. I do miss my son, but I know that he is loved and that he has the most wonderful parents in the world.A lot has changed in my life and it has taken a turn for the better as my three kids are back with me for good. I’ve grown in so many ways and have changed everything about my life. I see life in a whole different way. I never knew that I could be capable of making such a difference in two people’s lives, but the tears of joy and happiness I saw after my son was born. Their look – as if nothing else was around- was the warmest feeling to my heart. It brought me to tears. Not
only will I carry on in life with a special place in my heart for my son, but also for his parents.Michelle, as well as her daughter Arielle have a special place in my heart. They are special people – who still are a part of my life, physically and emotionally. We have become like family.
“Lord, I know this is Your will and Your blessing and I am thankful to be able to carry it out. Lord, guide me to the next step…”
Family is such a beautiful blessing. It’s not perfect, it takes a lot of work, and you have to put yourselves aside to be able to raise your children. God knows my heart, He knows my desire, and He knows how I can lose track of Him in effort to control my own will. Even though I backslide, my heart and mind always pull back towards the Lord. I hit a rock bottom at a point in my life and inside me grew an innocent. I had an instant fear for her as our situation was so
complicated. I went to the Lord and through prayer I heard “This is not for you.” Isn’t He so poetic? “Lord, I’m on board!”In my church bulletin, there was this phone number alongside what I misread to read “Teen pregnancy and adoption helpline”. That number was for the Pregnancy Resource Center in San Bernardino and it connected me to Raquel. We had such a special conversation that stays with me as one of the many signs of how adoption touches people in a wonderful way, thank you Jesus! See the word “Adoption” looks like “Abortion” and I wasn’t identifying with that or “teen
pregnancy” and probably wouldn’t have thought to call there if I had read it right. Small detail but it is impactful to this bigger story I have.Raquel couldn’t help me there but quickly said “You should talk to Michelle with Adoption Answer.” She told me Michelle was local and I could meet with her pretty quickly. I hung up then called Michelle while I had the momentum and questions. Ring ring… (walking laps around the couch) ring ring… “Adoption Answer…” Wow. I know every one of you who have called her can understand me when I say there is something instantly special about Michelle. I was calling for
answers but admit I was concerned that I was going to be given a pitch. With Michelle, you can tell that if your lives are going to connect that it is because it’s God’s will and not something artificial to that. She gave me answers and made herself open and available in case I had more questions or wanted to begin the process. She concerned herself with where I was at in life and made it a point to me that she doesn’t judge me and I knew her actions were going to prove that. Even though I didn’t feel I needed anything but answers at that moment, I appreciated that if there was something I needed she would work something out. I believe that Adoption Answer supports her to be able to do this. Thank you Jesus! Wow!!The connection I have with Mike and Kim went further than our adoption match. Our friendship is God centered and what blossoms out of that is ever revealing. They are such an amazing couple. I feel they have put themselves out there and I respect that and see it as a gift. I want to mention that because we spent great care over each other, there was some amazing harmony in the delivery room and after care. I appreciate that they didn’t walk on eggshells around me
and that they really trusted me. I appreciate them for so many reasons. It has been 4 months since I first met Emsley and I still have no regrets here, no sadness. It has been my privilege to have gone through this. I have given my grief of backslide to God a long time ago and do not carry that with me. I have been polished by this experience and would do it all again if that’s what God wants for me.I open myself up to you. If there is something more I can share with you please contact me. I looked for something here on the website when I begin this process but didn’t find it until I made the call for questions. Birthmothers and fathers; take pride in the fact that you have options and it should mean something that you are looking into them. Adoptive parents in waiting, I think about how you’re in this journey everyday and how He is working on preparing you. I think about how He doesn’t give anyone more than they can handle. I have a strong desire to say this now; God never takes his eyes off of you and He is committed to you. To everyone who’s connected through adoption, I am thankful to you. What adoption is today is so beautifully faceted. Feeling pride and satisfaction because you are a part of something beautiful teaches the world that adoption is a healthy choice and an option to consider. May God continue to touch you in your
lives.Michelle, I love you. You are so very special. Thank you for following your calling. Thank you for the help you give to others. Thank you to your family for their support in what you do and their sacrifice. Thank you for being a mentor to me. You are “Love” and you are “Grace”. You are a beautiful child of God. Wow.
Working with Ashlene and Michelle was life changing. I thought I had no where to go and they saved my daughter and myself! Michelle worked tirelessly to get the adoption process started for me and stayed by me while I searched for the perfect family for my daughter. Every step of the way, I had a tremendous amount of support and love.
Ashlene has become family to me. These women are not just here to get the job done and leave. Ashlene helped myself and my daughter’s parents through so much while they were here. She was by my side while I gave birth to my beautiful daughter and she has stayed a huge part of my family since then. We have regular contact and we see each other and our kids to catch up.
The adoption process was much less stressful for me with Adoption Center of Hope than with the agency I had previously been with in Raleigh. Our family chose an open adoption and it couldn’t be more perfect. I felt so lucky when I found them. The moment we got off of our initial call, Michelle asked me who I wanted to speak to next and I said, “Nope. I want them. It’s them.” I just knew, somehow.
My daughter’s parents held my hand through her birth, have been family to me when I need guidance, have raised her into this beautiful young girl that she is. We send pictures to each other and call on holidays. With an open adoption, you have all of these plans of how it should be: “We are going to talk once a week.” “We will send photos all the time.” You still have to consider that you have real life going on around you. We don’t talk on the phone every week, we don’t send pictures every week but we do what works for us.
My daughter’s parents are incredible individuals and they have never made me feel like I was on the outside. They don’t push me out, they never leave me in the dark. Being able to watch my daughter grow up from afar is such a gift for me and I am grateful for it every single day. I think that there is such a negative light, such a stigma attached to adoption but it has the potential to be something so beautiful. When you find the right parents, the organization, and have nothing but good intentions- it is so incredibly rewarding.
My daughter will be four this year and she has a biological little sister now! I’m so grateful that they will know about each other and hopefully, when they are older, know each other well. This experience was nothing short of incredible. Though the choice is never an easy one to make, the support I was given by my adoption facilitators, adoptive family, and my own family; it really changed my life.
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We had been with another agency and hadn’t matched before finding Adoption Answer. We were praying and researching where to go from here. We spoke with Michelle on the phone, and she prayed a beautiful prayer for our family. Right when we got off the phone my husband and I looked at each other and just knew this was the place we were supposed to adopt through. 8 months later, our precious miracle girl was in our arms. She is a gift from the Lord! The time, attention to detail, love, and grace that Michelle exudes was incredible to watch. The way she loves and cares for birth mothers and adoptive families is unmatched. We will forever be grateful the Lord led us to Adoption Answer!
As I sit here and hold our sweet daughter, words can’t express how thankful we are for Michelle and Adoption Answer Resource Center. We have been on our adoption journey for three years, and by God’s sovereignty, we were connected with Michelle in March 2022. Nine months later, we are now home with our little girl. From our first conversation with Michelle, we knew she had a true heart for birth moms and adoptive parents. Our experience was night and day compared to other agencies we worked with in the past. We felt heard, loved, and cared for throughout the whole process. I would recommend Adoption Answer Resource Center to any potential birth mom and hopeful adoptive parents.
Michelle held our hand through the hold matching/hospital process. She is a gift and such a blessing
Our adoption journey has been nothing short of amazing. Michelle and her team are literally a gift from the Lord. It can be a scary unknown territory, but with the communication we’ve had with everyone it has made the process a lot easier. We completed our home study and about a week after that Michelle called us to let us know a baby boy was born and we were chosen by the birth mom. The emotions are unexplainable really. There are no words to write that can express the adoption journey until you travel it yourself. Our hearts are full, the Lord is amazing and because of this we now have our son. I’m hoping we adopt again and we will without hesitation work with Michelle again.
We are very grateful for our Adoption team and connection with everyone needed to complete our adoption process
Words can’t express how blessed we are to have worked with Michelle and everyone at Adoption Answer Resource Center. She was with us every step of the way. It was amazing to see her knowledge, experience, and wisdom shine through. We not only knew that we were in great hands but that the birth mother was also being greatly cared for. We thank the Lord for our son every day and couldn’t be more grateful!
Our path to adoption was filled with a lot of fear and tears. I think we all start there. We spoke with a couple different adoption groups and DHS. They all had high fees and seemed to just want the business. But our experience with Adoption Center of Hope was different. Michelle’s kind voice and comforting words helped us feel seen and known. As we hung up after speaking with her for the first time, she asked if she could pray with us. We could feel the Holy Spirit and knew this was the right place for us. We were guided the whole way. Our adoption experience wasn’t easy due to different circumstances with our story, but Adoption Center of Hope was amazing throughout it all!
We cannot say enough great things about Adoption Answer Resource Center. After our first meeting with Michelle, our hearts and minds were immediately at peace with our decision to adopt again. Her words were gentle and calming as she explained the process to us. Michelle’s experienced team was well organized and helped us prepare for the journey ahead. As with some adoptions, ours had its ups and downs and Michelle was with us throughout the entire journey. From the emotional first meeting with the birth parents to the stressful final hours, Michelle and the AARC staff were always very accessible and supportive. We always felt very important. Michelle and her team prayed with us throughout the process and we truly felt the presence of the Lord along the way. At the time of the birth of our daughter, Michelle was providing emotional support to not only us, but also the birth family. She was also instrumental in coordinating details with the hospital staff, social workers, and others so that we could bring our daughter home. We have and will continue to recommend Adoption Answer to anyone who is looking to add to their family through adoption.
We started our adoption journey in November after many failed attempts at IVF. We decided on Adoption Answer Resource Center, once we found out they were a Christian organization and after speaking with Michelle, I knew this was the place for us. They were always there for my husband and I no matter what. On November 29, 2016 we found out we were matched. I remember thinking at first it can’t be real, it just happened so quickly. Our birth mom was amazing, we were able to talk to her about once a month so we always knew how our daughter was doing. Michelle is really amazing in helping you form that bond with the birth parents. Our adoption journey was not easy, it is really emotional and hard to give up control. But with faith and our amazing families we felt very loved and taken care of thru the adoption process. Our daughter came into this world in March, adoption center of hope was there with us for everything. We had to go out of state and Michelle was always there to answer any question we might have. Holding our daughter for the first time was a dream come true. Being parents is a wonderful experience and after four years it is amazing to call ourselves mom and dad. We will forever be thankful for Adoption Answer Resource Center and all the amazing staff there who helped our dreams come true.
When God helped us to decide to Adopt again, we didn’t realize exactly what His plan for us would include. We had two biological boys and we had Adopted our daughter from foster care. We knew several families at church Adopting from out of country and then believed that, with the support of these friends, inter-country Adoption must be our new direction. We began the process of Adopting from Rwanda.
Six months later, Rwanda suspended accepting Adoption applications. We were devastated because this seemed like God was definitely closing the door. We weren’t sure how to proceed. Private Adoption had never even been an option in our minds and was certainly the most unfamiliar and uncomfortable road. We were skeptical about this new direction, apprehensively making calls and speaking with Adoption agencies, attorneys, and facilitators. None seemed to “feel” right. Then, we found Adoption Answer Resource Center.
When we spoke with Michelle we finally felt some confirmation and encouragement that private Adoption could be a realistic and viable option for us. just shy of six months from trusting God and stepping out in faith, our sweet little Eliana was born. Over the following three days, we were in and out of Birth Mom’s room with Eliana, spending what we knew were our last treasured moments all together.
While we did experience some challenges we would never change the experience and situation that God gave us. We are proud to have called our Birth Mom “friend,” even if it was for a brief time. We are blessed to have known her and feel grateful that we will have wonderful stories to tell our daughter of the fun times that we did have together.
Adoption Answer Resource Center went above and beyond anything we could have expected in supporting us in our Adoption process. It is easy to have many questions about how everything works and they really held our hand every step of the way. The staff is beyond loving and kind and you truly feel that they care for both Adoptive Parents and Birth Moms alike. They are always on call if you have any questions. Even in light of all of the anxiety one might have involving Adoption, they made our experience pleasant and enjoyable. We are grateful to them beyond words for helping us bring our daughter home.
That’s one happy girl. This is her dream come true. Sienna is going to be just the best big sister. She wants to be with her all the time. What a blessing. Sienna is so happy as you can see. We are happy that you would put their picture on your web site. All is bliss on this end. Just enjoying every moment.
We initially chose Adoption Answer Resource Center because our Pastor’s daughter had used them and God lead us to them! The waiting is the hardest part, and we felt supported throughout the whole 9 months until we were matched and when the baby came three weeks later!
We chose them for our second adoption because of how our daughter’s birth-mom and birth-family were treated with love and respect throughout the process and after placement. We also walked through the process and felt confident the entire time that our wishes were being taken into consideration every step of the way. We felt supported and cared for and kept in the loop. I wouldn’t go anywhere else and would DEFINITELY recommend Adoption Answer Resource Center to anyone!
We can’t say enough about Adoption Answer Resource Center. From the beginning we knew we were led by the Lord when we met Michelle. Not only did we feel that she would help us achieve our dream of having a child by facilitating our Adoption journey, but we knew by the way she cared for and was dedicated to all of Adoption Answer Resource Center’s Birth Mothers and families. Adoption Answer Resource Center saw us and our son’s beautiful Birth Mother through the entire process. We are still in communication with Michelle today which is just another affirmation that they are in the “business” not for the business part of it, but the life changing role that they play part of in helping create families and helping Birth Mothers in need. We are so grateful to them and will always feel blessed to be part of the Adoption Answer family.
Adoption: So much more then a meaning to a word, its the most incredible gift we’ve ever come to know. After experiencing years of infertility, and trying to conceive naturally, we began discussing our options. Shortly after we began calling Adoption Services, and after four months of endless calls to Adoption agency after Adoption agency, I called Adoption Center Of Hope, this is where our journey began.
We wake up every morning and thank God for blessing us with our adorable little Bradley. He is such a joy and we are so deeply in love with him. After finding out we could never conceive a child we knew we wanted to Adopt right away. We started our Adoption journey and soon after we met the most amazing lady who was an Adoption coordinator for Adoption Answer Resource Center.
Only six months ago, we experienced the blessing of a lifetime and an answer to our prayers – the birth of our Adopted daughter, Ainsley Isabella. Our journey to Adoption was a long one, but worth the wait. Years of failed fertility treatments was compounded by the sudden loss of our baby daughter at 20 weeks in utero.
Our experience with Adoption Answer Resource Center has been wonderful! Michelle was always very attentive and caring. We knew that our profile was being shown regularly. She was there for us during all of the highs and lows of the Adoption process. Michelle worked hard to always promote our family to expectant moms.
Michelle Dettman and the team at Adoption Answer Resource Center have gone the extra mile for our family, our son, and his birth family. They are unique in that they really, truly, love all of their families. Not just with words or deeds, but in action and in truth.
The first time I talked to Michelle on the phone, I felt so understood she listened to me, she reassured me and prayed for me. I felt hope for the first time in a very long time. When she shared with me that Adoption Answer Resource Center specializes in matching adoptive families and birth mamas for infant adoption, I knew I was in the right place, and when she told me her story and why she started her adoption ministry, I was in awe.
Adoption Center Of Hope has truly been an answer to our prayers. After years of failed attempts to conceive a child through fertility treatments, we decided to build our family through Adoption. There were so many choices and variations in the Adoption world that we felt our heads spinning and we didn’t know where to start.
We are so thankful for Michelle and the rest of the Adoption Answer Resource Center family. Throughout the entire roller coaster of emotions, starting in the waiting phase and continuing through the birth of our son, Michelle was always available to talk, listen, pray, encourage and support. The love she has for the entire adoption triad was always a huge comfort to us. Throughout our entire time of working with Adoption Answer, we knew that not only were we being supported and prayed for, but our son’s birth family was always loved, encouraged, supported and prayed for as well. To Michelle and the rest of Adoption Answer Resource Center, each adoption story is not work or a job, but rather a passion and a true calling. We love our Adoption Answer family!
At the very beginning of our search on Adoption, God intervened and brought us directly to Adoption Answer Resource Center. As soon as we had our phone meeting with the director Michelle, we knew we were on the right path. As we were brand new to Adoption, we were doing a lot of research and understood that it typically could take a long time – even years – to be matched. Through Adoption Answer, we were matched within a month!!!
We fell in love with our son’s Birth Mom the first time we met her. We formed a connection and developed a close bond. Our relationship remains open and loving.
The Adoption Answer Resource Center staff was always there for us. Michelle, Wendy and Arielle – we honestly felt like they were our guardian angels through the whole process. The service is incredibly personalized – Michelle was even the birth coach to our Birth Mom during our son’s delivery. We are forever grateful to Michelle and the entire Adoption Answer Resource Center staff – for their true love and support. We could not have asked for a better group of women to take on this journey with us.
We cannot even begin to express how glad we are that the Lord brought us to Michelle at Adoption Answer Resource Center. We were referred to her by a friend at a time where we were so discouraged at our adoption process. We had a failed match and Michelle’s love and support helped us to really believe that the Lord had the perfect plan and child for our family.
There are truly no words to express our gratitude to Michelle and the team at Adoption Answer Resource Center. As I sit here and write this my husband is feeding our beautiful baby boy Levi, and my heart is so full. At the beginning of our adoption journey we interviewed multiple adoption facilitators. Michelle came highly recommended to us and upon meeting her we immediately saw why. She is highly professional, compassionate and very knowledgeable. It was obvious that she was the right person to help us from beginning to end. From the matching process to the birth of our son, her care for us as well as birth parents was truly outstanding! After many grueling years of infertility we came to the adoption process with lots of questions and tender hearts. Michelle’s experience and professionalism combined with her compassionate approach really helped us navigate the many decisions we were faced with and gave us strength and hope for the remainder of our journey. If you are considering the path of adoption and looking for a Christian adoption service provider, look no further! Michelle and her team are truly outstanding.